On closing chapters and starting new ones.

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened.

You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister.

Everyone is finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home.

Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.
Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them.

Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose.
Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood.

Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoni

ng you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.”

Before a new chapter begins, the old one has to be finished: Tell yourself that what has passed will never come back.

Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need.

This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

~ Paulo Coelho.


I agree with my friend, Paulo. His words are truly exquisite. He’s a doctor to our losses, and of our souls.

Life is sometimes difficult to understand. Sometimes, we can’t close a cycle because we don’t know if we should. Sometimes, we don’t get answers. Sometimes, our wounds don’t heal, even though time is supposed to do that for us. I don’t agree. We might not burst into tears at the memory five years from now because the pain has lessened. But the wounds are never gone. Paulo is right, you never go back to the way you were. This is a problem for most of us. We want to go back to what we had, what we felt, to our unfinished business, just go back to the old days where everything seemed easier. In other words, we want to go back to the past.

But we can’t. So we hold on. We Hope. We Believe. Because It’s hard to accept that things will never be the same.

In a world that is constantly moving, no one should stand still. How do you keep your feet planted on a ground that is always shifting? How is one to keep up? How can you rely on anybody if everyone changes? What does it take to make it in this rat race?

Oh, what a rat race.

 Copyright © 2014 Elisa Marie Hopkins. All rights reserved.


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